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Making the unbearable bearable
One of my coping mechanism to deal with trauma is the need to make sense of situations, of experiences that have no sensible reason why they happened. What is the mental response to a traumatic event? For me it was and I still catch myself of doing it sometimes: Overthinking. I desperately tried to find a sense and meaning in these events.When you do this from early childhood on, you might program your brain to think illogical thoughts, you create limiting believes for yourself.I’ll give you an example: When a child experienced disconnection and that emotional needs aren’t met, the child can come to the conclusion that she or he…
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The home of the soul
„Home is what you take with you, not what you leave behind.“ – N.K. Jemisin – Dear little inner child, it is safe to leave those people behind who never understood you, who didn’t care for you because you will meet real friends, experience real connections by the ocean. It is safe to leave those places behind where you felt you don’t belong, where you felt prisoned and stuck because you will find a place of freedom and connection by the ocean. It is safe to leave those fears and doubts about not being enough behind because you will learn to set sails, to navigate through storms, to surf the…